The Lies They Told Me
“You will get everything you want.”
They often made it seem like I'll just suddenly stop being in poverty if I just turn to God. However, it often takes people years and years to achieve financial freedom. It is partly because of their own bad choices. However, it also is because of wrongs committed against them (i.e. emotional problems because of past abuse or theft of their property). You shouldn't give up hope, but don't be too hard on yourself if you haven't yet “made it.”
“Put God first and you'll meet "the one.”
“Your life will be easier.”
They often made it sounds like my car will never break down, I will never get sick, or I could instantly get over being emotionally, sexually, or physically abused. I could do this as long as I was into God. Life was supposed to be easy for me as long as I had enough faith and did what I was told. What a total crock! I believed until I was blue in the face. Following God could stop bad things from happening to good people, but don't expect him to every single time.
You're relationships will be better.”
What Churches Should Really Tell You
They should tell young men and young women that following God is no guarantee that they will ever get married, have a family, etc. They also should warn you that you might have very few friends or you could be a virgin until you are almost 30. They also should tell you that your family could turn against you or that the pain from past abuse may not instantly go away.
Following God is not meant to be a quick fix. If I hadn't been told so many lies about what my life could be like if I were to follow God, I wouldn't be so disappointed and discouraged right now.
Still, There's No Excuse
In the end, I won't blame my shortcomings on poor church teachings, and neither should anyone else. Every single one of us has to be accountable for all our actions on Judgment Day — whenever that day comes. I do, and so do you.
And I’m not saying I’ve arrived. I still make a lot of mistakes and do a lot of things I shouldn’t do. I am also nowhere the witness I used to be before I backslid and started going my own way and drifting away from God.
Still, I know that in spite of wrong church teachings I’m responsible for my own walk with God.