Friday, May 10, 2013

When Dealing With Depression: Unusual Advice From Someone Who's Been There

When I say I have “unusual” advice from someone who has been depressed before, I really mean I've been depressed more times than I want to admit--and sometimes still am. Therefore, some people might think that I'm a total downer and that I just always sit around feeling sorry for myself.

Well, I will let everyone I know nothing could be further than the truth if you think that's all I do is just feel sorry for myself all the time because I don't. I just don't talk to people very often because most of the time when I'm not depressed I actually like being alone.

I don't know how else to explain this to anyone and perhaps any person who can identify with this will hopefully also be helped by this:

Within the past few days I had struggled with the worst depression that I had in months, and when it's happening—when I'm really in the total throes of it—it feels like it's never going to end. It feels like nothing is ever going to get any better. In fact, it's not going to get better-ever, is what I just thought yesterday.

I even just sent this message to my counselor (or something like this--and by the way it's not the same gloomy doomsday counselor I was seeing months ago—a different one now):

I know in a few days this depression will pass. However, right now I just hit rock bottom and it feels like there is going to be no way out. Still, I'm not going to try to force myself to snap out of it as it will just pass when it passes. There is nothing that can be done no magic fix except to wait it out until it's over.”

Another thing that helps me when I'm this low and it feels like I'm going to be this way for ever is the words to one of the only country songs I actually like:

If you're goin' through hell keep on going
Don't slow down if you're scared don't show it
You might get out before the devil even knows you're there
When you're goin' through hell keep on movin'
Face that fire walk right through it
You might get out before the devil even knows you're there

If you're goin' through hell keep on going
Don't slow down if you're scared don't show it
You might get out before the devil even knows you're there
When you're goin' through hell keep on movin'
Face that fire walk right through it
You might get out before the devil even knows you're there
You might get out before the devil even knows you're there

In fact, the entire “If Your'e Going Through Hell” song would be a song worth repeating on my blog if I had chose to do so—even if it were to get me a duplicate content penalty from Google. (I hope Google as well as the writer of this song will understand that this is one of the songs that always comforts me when I'm down.)

As far as the song “Going Through Hell” song itself...I agree with most of it except maybe the line about “don't slow down”...

I do believe that sometimes I just need a break once in awhile. Moving too fast all the time is the reason why I sometimes got into hot water in the first place. However, I agree with the rest of it because it applies to my principle of “if you feel depressed just let it pass.” In other words, if it happens it happens just let it happen and let it pass and don't let the devil thing he's got the best of you. 

Why would I suggest “just let it pass?” What kind of cure for depression is that?

Don't get me wrong. I always had faith in God. He's helped me through quite a bit. However, people seem to forget that people who are Christians are also human, too. King David was human, and so was King Solomon and Rahab who hid two spies that Joshua had sent to her house. What makes us any better than these great people?

Even Jesus himself was a real human with real emotions. Of course, he didn't act out in ways that were unjust or harmful, but he did have emotions nonetheless. I believe if people were as compassionate and non-judgmental like he was—unless he had to be—this world would be a lot better place to live and a lot better place in which to overcome depression.

It's also true what it says in my favorite book of the Bible about their being a “time for everything” and a “time for every purpose under heaven”:

Everything that was ever good or bad was meant for a reason. I know that and I think deep down we all know that. However, during that moment when everything seems so bleak and dark, all I can think to do is just take a nap!

Conclusion: Accept that You're Human

I don't mean we should accept our limitations and give up thinking we will never get any better. However each and every one of us needs to not be so down on ourselves if we fail momentarily to be the best we can be. We shouldn't be lazy but we also need to know when to just not worry about what we can't control. 

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